"Separating your baseline personal desires from other factors, like the relationship you’re in at the moment or where your career stands, is a phenomenally difficult task. Not to mention the societal pressure. Despite the ever-increasing feminist influence on the mainstream, conventional wisdom still says that motherhood is womanity’s highest calling — just ask every CEO who refers to her kids as her greatest achievement. At the same time, young women get a loud and clear message that parenthood is tough. Really tough. Books like Overwhelmed: Work, Love and Play When No One Has the Time top the best-seller list. Blunt headlines explain that women pay a major penalty at work for becoming mothers. Even the parenting-related clickbait is scary: “100 Reasons Not to Have Kids.” Throw in a few wine-drunk conversations with friends who are parents about their sleepless, sexless lives, and who wouldn’t be at least a little bit ambivalent?"

What If You Just Don’t Know If You Want Kids? - NYmag.com

5 Lady-Powered Podcasts We’re Loving Right Now

cygfriend:

Aw, thanks!

A more detailed peek at the feature I wrote about Robyn for The Gentlewoman. I’m really proud of this.

Episode 8: Emotional Detox

cygfriend:

We discuss digital detoxes, Ferguson fallout and what it takes to get white people to care about police brutality, summer camp for adults, and our ideal retirement situation.

Reading list:
A year-long digital detox
Different rules apply if you’re white
The white mom of a black son gets a rude awakening
On the likelihood of bumping into a police officer
Adult summer camp, not as sexy as it sounds
"we watch an early-sixties blonde seduce a mid-thirties male”

Music:
Chapelle’s Show: Charlie Murphy’s True Hollywood Stories
Oliver - Light Years Away
Flume & Chet Faker - Drop the Game (Sweater Beats Remix)

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The Unbearable Whiteness

The Unbearable Whiteness of Late Night
The Unbearable Whiteness of the Oscars
The Unbearable Whiteness of Television
The Unbearable Whiteness of Cable
The Unbearable Whiteness of Being on SNL
The Unbearable Whiteness of Newsrooms
The Unbearable Whiteness of National Public Radio
The Unbearable Whiteness of Liberal Media
The Unbearable Whiteness of Literature
The Unbearable Whiteness of MFA Programs
The Unbearable Whiteness of Librarianship
The Unbearable Whiteness of Moses
The Unbearable Whiteness of Cher
The Unbearable Whiteness of Skiing
The Unbearable Whiteness of Suicide-By-Mass-Murder
The Unbearable Whiteness of FIFA
The Unbearable Whiteness of CPAC
The Unbearable Whiteness of the GOP
The Unbearable Whiteness of Pro-Lifers and Pundits
The Unbearable Whiteness of Social Networks
The Unbearable Whiteness of Blogging
The Unbearable Whiteness of Chomsky’s Arguments
The Unbearable Whiteness of Emceeing
The Unbearable Whiteness of Eating
The Unbearable Whiteness of Urban Farming
The Unbearable Whiteness of Craft Brewing
The Unbearable Whiteness of Legalization
The Unbearable Whiteness of the Irish
The Unbearable Whiteness of Milk

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Maybe it’s because I’ve read too many stories about women being raped in frat basements and abused by athletes – who, especially if they’re white, tend to go unpunished or get away with a light slap on the wrist. (Well, as long as TMZ doesn’t leak a recording of the incident.) Maybe it’s because I’ve seen groups of men challenge each other to prove their masculinity in ways that are dangerous to themselves and others. Maybe it’s a vestigial fear of the guys who threw kickballs at my head in junior high-gym class (not that I’m saying I wasn’t an easy target, as a 6ft-2in nerd with buck teeth and all of the physical grace of a baby giraffe taking its first steps on the savanna). Maybe it’s because, as an adult, I’ve been harassed by drunk white men far more often than any other demographic.

Or perhaps it comes down to statistics: I’m white, and white people are most likely to be raped and murdered by other white people.

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I prefer a no-bro zone - The Guardian

My essay about LinkedIn is included in this new anthology of wit and wisdom from The Baffler. Ask for it in your local independent bookstore, or make an icky-but-convenient purchase here.

My essay about LinkedIn is included in this new anthology of wit and wisdom from The Baffler. Ask for it in your local independent bookstore, or make an icky-but-convenient purchase here.

Charting Innovation #2 - The Long+Short

Charting Innovation #2 - The Long+Short

Charting Innovation #1 - The Long+Short

Charting Innovation #1 - The Long+Short