Also related to this week’s column, that one time I staged a Barbie orgy. In 2012.
I wrote about the pleasures of drinking alone for The Gentlewoman.
"Anti-Barbie arguments have a tired ring to them — even among feminists, we’re in backlash-to-the-backlash mode. There’s also some research to back up the claim that Barbie affects girls’ body image and their views on gender roles. Yet when I look back at my own Barbie-influenced youth, I have a hard time pointing to anything but positive effects. “The feminist perspective is she has this unattainable figure,” McFadden says. “But Barbie was the only doll that had breasts, the only one to create a space where girls could start to fantasize about that.” And fantasize we did. “My Barbie was a WHORE,” one friend told me. Another said her dolls “had the most active sex life ever. I rubbed their little flat fronts together almost every time I played.”"
I am in the best mood today.
M: It was more like, I know I will do it, because I always planned to. But up until really doing it, it wasn’t a happy prospect. My biggest fears had to do with work. Would I be able to just keep living this life that I really enjoy? I really wanted to make sure I’d do two movies before having a baby. It basically felt like dying. Funny, in retrospect.
A: It’s oddly comforting to hear a mother say this. It’s a common fear.
M: Parenthood really is actually like dying and being reborn as a new person, relearning all the ways you’ve learned to do things. I think it’s different for everyone, but I really felt like I was turned into a new creature. What? What? This is crazy! We can’t do this!
A: No one’s ever done this before!
M: Yeah, no one’s ever done this before! I kept saying to Mike: this just seems like a really weird, extreme thing that only a few weirdos would be into, kind of like the X-Games or something.
I talked to Miranda July about how motherhood has changed her creative process, and lots of other things.