Upcoming readings

Over the next few weeks, I’ll be reading my work up and down the great state of California!

Oct 14, 2014: Radar Reading Series at LitQuake, San Francisco
Oct 18, 2014: Afar Magazine Spins the Globe at LitQuake, San Francisco
Nov 1, 2014: California Prose Directory reading to benefit 826LA, Los Angeles

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First of all, no one has ever said anything bad about me before, so I’m shocked and devastated. I’ll try to recover. [Laughs]

If I’m really honest, I’m so psyched that she sees us as competition. I’m so psyched. I really am.

I think that when anybody criticizes anyone, it’s revealing more about where they are in time and space as opposed to where you are in time and space. I think generally we tend to lash out if we’re in a, you know it’s usually a reflection of something else. At this point in my life I don’t take it personally. I see it as a projection. And if there’s ever anything that sticks then I know, “oh, I’m holding this judgment against myself and I need to look at that.” And you know sometimes I learn good things from criticism.

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Gwyneth Paltrow on her haters.

I am on this list! 

I am on this list

"Would we have a birth-control pill—and all of the freedom that comes with it—if Sanger, McCormick, Pincus, and Rock had truly respected all women’s autonomy? I don’t think it’s possible to know. We can, however, recognize and honor the women whose rights were trampled in the service of creating birth-control options we still enjoy today. And, as we work toward our own feminist political and scientific breakthroughs, we can ask ourselves the question that the four birth control crusaders did not: How can we achieve our goals while protecting all women’s rights along the way?"

How the Pill Overcame Impossible Odds And Found a Place in Millions of Women’s Purses - NewRepublic.com

Free memoir ideas

Not That Kind of Grill: A Vegetarian Tells You What She’s “Learned” About Barbecues

Not That Kind of Gruel: A Mess-Hall Cook Tells You What She’s “Learned” About Affordable Bulk Lunches

Not That Kind of Swirl: A Lactose-Intolerant Woman Tells You What She’s “Learned” About Soft-Serve

Not That Kind of Purl: A Young Etsy Seller Tells You What She’s “Learned” About the Knitting Business

Not That Kind of Showgirl: A Young Elizabeth Berkley Tells You What She’s “Learned” About “Versace”

Not That Kind of IRL: A Young Tumblr Addict Tells You What She’s “Learned” About Closing Her Laptop

Not That Kind of Twirl: An Over-Enthusiastic Woman Tells You What She’s “Learned” From One Night at a Gay Bar

Not That Kind of Earl: A Young Anglo-Saxon Tells You What He’s “Learned” About Nobility

Not That Kind of Hurl: A Nauseous Young Woman Tells You What She’s “Learned” About Motion Sickness*

Not That Kind of Curl: A Lock of Hair Tells You What She’s “Learned” About Crimping*

Not That Kind of Gone Girl: A Young Married Woman Tells You What She’s “Learned” About Psychological Thrillers*

(* Credit to the fabulous Maureen O’Connor & Claire Howorth)

My work is included in this new anthology of California prose, edited by my pal J. Ryan Stradal and featuring the words of Aimee Bender and Dana Goodyear and Rachel Khong and Amelia Gray and SO MANY MORE great writers. Order it from big, evil Amazon or ask for it at the friendly independent bookshop of your choice.

My work is included in this new anthology of California prose, edited by my pal J. Ryan Stradal and featuring the words of Aimee Bender and Dana Goodyear and Rachel Khong and Amelia Gray and SO MANY MORE great writers. Order it from big, evil Amazon or ask for it at the friendly independent bookshop of your choice.

"Critics say this law is going to make consensual sex less sexy — that being 100 percent sure your partner is into it, or even stopping frequently to ask, “Is this okay?” is not hot. That university administrators will practically require written affidavits to prove sex was consensual, and the threat of a possible assault allegation will deflate boners on campuses from Humboldt State down to U.C., San Diego. I beg to differ. Confirming consent leads to much hotter sex."

Oh Yes Means Yes: The Joy of Affirmative Consent - NYmag.com

"And still, tired as the tech-sexism narrative has become, you don’t want to stop talking about the problem. Ignorance has never solved anything. But it’s also hard not to think that maybe all of the profiles of boy-wonder founders and outraged blogging about sexist tweets have their own sort of chilling effect, perpetuating a narrative that enables the worst entrenched tendencies of the industry and alienates the very people who could challenge them. Rather than highlighting the appalling nature of Titstare or CodeBabes, perhaps we should be talking about tech success stories — the companies and training programs that have managed to correct the gender imbalance while keeping their innovative, disruptive values intact."

Trying to Fix Tech’s Woman Problem - Matter

"In the context of these influences, what allows women to become free of concerns about the reactions they or their work will provoke? I’ve found that the fundamental shift for women happens when we internalize the fact that all substantive work brings both praise and criticism. Many women carry the unconscious belief that good work will be met mostly — if not exclusively — with praise. Yet in our careers, the terrain is very different: Distinctive work, innovative thinking and controversial decisions garner supporters and critics, especially for women. We need to retrain our minds to expect and accept this."

YES to everything Tara Mohr writes in this op-ed. To figure out which criticism is worth listening to, reference The Disapproval Matrix.

"I know for a fact that it occurs to at least some of us. You know who we are. We obsessively followed the reports from Ferguson, and would, no question, tell a pollster that we believe the criminal justice system is biased against people of color. We’re white girls who make jokes about “white girls,” as if this category does not include us. We are proud to say we live in diverse cities — not the anodyne suburban enclaves and small towns of our upbringing. Yet our friends are mostly white. And we don’t feel great about it. Which raises a very thorny question: Should we actively try to make more friends who aren’t white? And if so, how?"

The Importance of Friendship Diversity - NYmag.com